tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1193708121568514184.post1161169826520110458..comments2023-08-23T08:12:52.248-04:00Comments on Overthinking Everything: Are You A Bully?Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08913449603878934813noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1193708121568514184.post-18934239811562709752010-04-13T21:35:03.976-04:002010-04-13T21:35:03.976-04:00Poor Natalie! Poor you! It is difficult to deal ...Poor Natalie! Poor you! It is difficult to deal with these issues. I keep thinking it would be nice to raise children during the millenium when they "grow up without sin". Let me know if you come up with a great solution. I agree with C Tam - you are the perfect mom to handle a tough situation.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18445337695738009689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1193708121568514184.post-34689565320936463962010-04-13T11:44:16.162-04:002010-04-13T11:44:16.162-04:00I was just reading a disturbing article on bullies...I was just reading a disturbing article on bullies, spurred by that recent South Hadley girl's bully-driven suicide. Interesting it happened so near where you live. I hope the schools start implementing some type of early warning system to notify parents, because that is sad Natalie has had bad days for weeks without the teacher telling you...? The research indicates that the longer bullying continues for a specific child victim, the harder it is for that child to break out of the "rejected" label. How long is "too long?" From what I've read, if I remember correctly after about two years with a bullying peer group, if teaching social navigation/defense skills hasn't worked then it is wise to relocate the child. Sometimes even when you teach the child the appropriate response to the bully, the pattern is too deeply ingrained and anything your child does begins to be seen in a rejected lens. Sort of like how the cool girl in school could pull off wearing pink jeans, but if the bullied child did the exact same act, the other kids would ridicule the jeans. <br /><br />I'm sure your reading will give more helpful hints for the here & now. I'd be interested to hear what you find, since I'm sure my kids will come up against this type of nightmare themselves someday...Really, Natalie could not have found herself a better mom to help with her situation. Best wishes to you on your crusade against evil!C Tamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02225667288642674172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1193708121568514184.post-61000277376644703252010-04-11T20:27:05.462-04:002010-04-11T20:27:05.462-04:00Oh poor little thing! Thank goodness she has a tea...Oh poor little thing! Thank goodness she has a teacher that is aware of things.<br />I hate bullies, I work for one! I have to stand up to him to make him back down.Pam Muellerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10191429511578565705noreply@blogger.com